Allah Ta’ala has kept certain natural characteristics in women by which they are able to surpass men. These characteristics are also inherent in children. The innocence of a child is well known; a soft heart, cries easily for something, and whenever children disagree with each other, they make up very easily without harbouring enmity.
Similarly, a woman’s heart possesses the innocent qualities of a child. A woman also possesses softness, cries easily and makes amends quickly. On the contrary, men are hard and need to strive to ‘smoothen’ this heart with good deeds under the guidance of a mentor. However, a woman possesses this ‘softness’ naturally, almost automatically. Her heart is ready and prepared for ‘cultivation’. All that is needed is for the seed to be sown in her heart and she attains proximity to Allah Ta’ala. This seed is the Zikr of Allah Ta’ala.
Hakeemul Ummat Hadhrat Maulana Thanwi (Rahimahullah) has said, “I give the certificate of wilayat (sainthood) to a woman who adopts three qualities with steadfastness and sincerity:
- Punctuality on Salah
- Regular Zikr
- Safeguards the tongue”
A woman should be very particular about her Salah and fulfill her qadha prayers that she has missed from puberty. She should not be negligent about purity and Salah after her menses. She should strive to be steadfast on purity and Salah at all times.
Zikr should be made under the guidance of a Shaykh and not of one’s own accord or opinion. Shaykh Abdul Mannan (DB) suggested that a woman should recite daily 100 duroods and 100 times Subhanallah wa bihamdihi subhanallahil azeemi wa bihamdihi astaghfirullah. This dua was prescribed by Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) to a Sahabi who complained of constraints and worries. The Sahabi returned after a year to say he has found abundance of peace and prosperity.
A woman should safeguard her tongue from excessive speech and making statements of ingratitude to her husband, mother, father, etc.
A woman who is steadfast on these practices will acquire the nisbat and proximity of Allah Ta’ala, Insha-Allah.
As short talk delivered by Hadhrat Haji Abdul Mannan (DB) of Makkah Mukarramah, addressing the womenfolk – Reservoirhills – Durban – South Africa- 10 July 2012